We're not here...to provide shelters for scared parents...we're here to listen to them....and through group effort...help them to create families again..
for BOTH the parent as well as the child...
We don't run soup kitchens for whiners...we treat those that are in need..with tenderness, open hearts, knowledge, and education....
Actually...for an entry in a guest book...if you think about it..was a good one...
for it brings out the PURPOSE of Angels That Care...and doesn't make any bones about it...
actually....you're more equipped to handle ___________________than anyone....because in a lot of ways...i see a bit of you..in her...
now don't bite my head off...look at her 'attitude' within the letter....there's no softness or pink frillies....
she's frank ...and so are you....take a stab at it...if you havne't already....
I know you can do it..otherwise you wouldn't be where you are today...in charge of the whole shoootin match!
Guess one could go on and on for ever............
but there are those............ who do stop the cycle...........
they resolve in their own minds...........
that the way they were treated/brought up......... conditions they lived in/ will not be repeated in their adult life with themselves or those around them...........
that happens too............ you know......... I would say............ at least about 50%.............
its just they are not spoken about..........
only the ones who are still in the cycle............. and never really want to get out......... just use it as a crutch for their laziness.........or lack of will power to do something about it............ or attention getting............... the dross of society........ (hard but true you know)
they need to be jolted out of it............ to look at themselves for what they are perhaps........... as others see them.......... then perhaps they might do something..........
because at the end of the day............
they are the only ones to be able to do so..............
no-one can do it for them..................
and all this sympathy is wasted............
shame
Angels that Care addresses Many Different Types Of Abuse- On Every Level- If you cannot get useful information from any of the pages within the site- well Sorry You wasted your time- You need not come here and be so "shocked" at what you read- These Things Do Happen To Many- as it is reading your post I am shocked to see someone that has had issues (and still does) about his/her parent's "parenting skills" and has done nothing to "get over" it yet.
No one is perfect- and things happen- to all - How about the 3 times convicted child (sex)abuser who's Father was, and still is a Detective in a PD? Is this "child predator" a product of his parent's upbringing?- I don't think so- How about the daughter of a Rev/minister taught well- turning "tricks at age 16" because she chose to leave home to get more "freedom" from her parents "house rules"? Where they bad parents because they controlled their daughter's comings and goings? And Now she lives on the streets by Her Own Choice?
Abuse comes in all sizes, shapes, age, gender, poor or rich.
YES it is society that allows these children to "leave school at age 16 and /or emancipate themselves" leaving home to live on the streets-with friends- gangs and other undesirables.
It is Society telling us we (parents) cannot punish our children, and it is society that allows them to become independent by giving them the chance to "make up their own minds at 16" if they want to stay in school etc etc.
Parents Should have control of their children- not by beating them- but by raising them with morals and good sense.
I see You have many issues that you still have not resolved with your parents. We all have issues within our relationships, it is how we deal with them that makes us or breaks us. Apparently You Have Not reached That Level Yet With Your Own "hang ups" about your parents.
There is No Perfect Parent- and there is No Perfect Child. It boils down to the balance of harmony that both parent and child can reach giving each other space and not loosing respect nor love for one another...
I think Your Parents Read Too Much Of That Book from Dr Spock- where he tells you that children are little persons and should be treated as such. *yada yada yada) A Child is a child, and a child will try to get away with things - it is normal- it is up to the parent to allow how far it goes.... and when to put a stop to it.
These pages are solely for the benefit of recognizing the different levels of abuse that exist, not to Brainwash anyone into taking what is written in them and acting upon it. It is all resources and information that Angels that Care offers... If anyone cannot see the purpose of the site, then it is best to move onto another more interesting site... maybe a home shopping network site would make you happier... and or might appeal to you best.
Anywhoos.... You are wrong and inaccurate in your comments. Leaving an impression that you need to get some help yourself to overcome those Long time Issues you are still living with.
Good Luck .... and Happy New Year!"
!!!!! ANGELS THAT CARE - GOING STRONG IN 2006 !!!!!
