STOP The Abuse
It is up to each and every one of us to help stop the carnage in homes across this country, and many other countries too. The problem is atrocious, and only getting worse all the time. It can only get worse, because children who grow up in abusive homes, learn abuse as a way of life, whether it is child abuse, spousal abuse, abuse of the elderly, physical abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse or one of the other kinds of horrible abuse that is happening in too many homes. Since that is the way of life they learn, it is the way of life they will continue, when they grow up and marry, and have children of their own.
That is why it is up to all of us, to try to help eradicate the terrible things that are happening. Every day people are maimed, and killed, or severely psychologically damaged, in their own homes, by someone who "loves" them.
If we know of a home in which this kind of behaviour is going on, perhaps we could talk to the persons who are being abused, and try to make sure they know of the avenues of help there are in your area. Sometimes we need to be reporting what we know to the proper authorities. There are all kinds of places where they can get help. Sometimes people will try to let on nothing is going on, but persistence might encourage them to open up, and start to seek the help they need. I realize that sometimes, this kind of help is looked upon as interference, but the consequences of no "interference" can be catastrophic.
There are so many kinds of abuse, and anyone can be subject to it. Children, women, men, the elderly, the poor, the rich, it does not matter, it has become a way of life at all economic levels in some homes. No one can really help, until the abused are ready to admit to someone, that they are being abused. Some will resent it if you try to help, but at some time they just may have hit the level at which even they are ready to admit, I cannot do it myself. We can only keep trying, and hopefully at some point win the battle.
The pictures you are seeing on this page, are not odd cases, they are happening all around us every day. Just ask medical professionals, hospitals, the police and the people in organizations that are helping. It is all too common, and will only become more common as time goes on.
If we can halt, or at least slow down the level of abusive homes, I think we may just slow down the crime rate, as well. So many criminals have turned to crime, out of a total lack of self respect, because of the homes in which they were raised. It is also a known fact that a great many people in our prisons, lived in abusive homes.
Please, please, if you know of instances of ongoing abuse, if you do not know of a way to help, talk to someone who might know, or know where to go to get help into that home or situation. It can only be good news for the future if we can turn one home around.
A good place to start looking for help is from "Angels That Care". It is a website, whose members really do care, and some of them have been in bad places too. The website has complete listings of all the agencies that can help. The link to that site is at the bottom of this page. There you will find out all you need to know about the help available, you will find someone to talk to, who will be totally sympathetic, and caring. It is as complete a listing as I know of for all kinds of help.
© 2007 Poetry by Liebezauber
You don't have to hit a child to abuse them
I know someone that tried to put out an Amber Alert on her 12 y/o daughter when in fact the 12 y/O was at the Grandparents house after being threatened and kicked out of the house by the mother the night before. Apparently the mother (MOM) was drunk, had blacked out and "forgot" where her child was. At this point Child Services were called and the other child that was 13 was also removed from the home.
This was an acquaintance I had met first moving here.....a neighbor of my friend and our kids went to school together. I watched this woman slowly deteriorate into drugs and alcohol. When she got caught driving drunk....she lost her license. My friend would call me every day telling me things about this woman and I would get so mad and tell her to call the police or report it. I called one time and they did go investigate but the complaint was not substantiated. However, the police and DCS kept a close eye.
One day...my daughter saw the 12 y/O and her mom in the principle's office. Passing in the hallway my daughter asked out of concern what was wrong and made a statement that she hoped her mother didn't drive. This led to many harassing phone calls from the mother saying my daughter was a liar and harassing her daughter at school.... which was not true; they were friends. One evening after taking my friends daughter home after one of my sons baseball games, this woman came out of her house so drunk screaming at me. I tried to talk to her but she insisted on calling me names and doing anything to goad me into getting mad. I told her she was drunk and to go in her house and go to bed........her daughters had come over to my friends house at this time. She started screaming at the top of her lungs that I was a fat b*tch and my daughter was nothing but a "nasty nigger half-breed piece of sh*t."
Please know that ALMOST all tact and moral integrity almost went out of the window.....I felt like a lioness at that very moment wanting to protect her cub....even though, THANK GOD my daughter she was talking about wasn't there at the time to hear those horrible words. I wanted to shred that woman to pieces! I kept my cool but she ran inside her house.....her mother had driven over at that point and I was literally yelling at her to stop enabling her daughter and to protect those kids! The police were called by MOM....I was crying to the officers that this woman had in fact been harassing me....she was a danger to herself, her kids and anyone else on the road. She frequently drove drunk and I was told she smoked crack. They told me it was hear-say but that they were familiar with her and were watching her.....
After that it wasn't a week when the kids were removed. The kids are thriving at their grandparents and I see them frequently as I take them to our church. MOM has been arrested for driving w/o a license...been in jail and has failed many urine tests. She for some reason has said she doesn't claim the youngest of her daughters but has weekly visits w/the oldest daughter.
It breaks my heart because I know that these kids have seen things they should never see.......many one-night stands and strange men in the house after a long night of partying by MOM , drugs, alcohol.....they were forced to make her drinks, clean up her puke and take care of her when she was incapcitated.
You don't have to hit a child to abuse them............
Used with permission
